Men and Women Understanding in Talking Part 5

Continued from Article Part 4  

5. Orders vs. Proposals.

Diana often begins statements with "Let's." She might say "Let's park over there" or "Let's clean up now, before lunch."

This makes Nathan angry. He has deciphered Diana's "Let's" as a command. Like most men, he resists being told what to do. But to Diana, she is making suggestions, not demands. Like most women, she formulates her requests as proposals rather than orders. Her style of talking is a way of getting others to do what she wants – but by winning agreement first.

With certain men, like Nathan, this tactic backfires. If they perceive someone is trying to get them to do something indirectly, they feel manipulated and respond more resentfully than they would to a straightforward request.

…….. TO BE CONTINUED 

• Men and Women Understanding in Talking Part 6
• Men and Women Understanding in Talking Part 2
• Men and Women Understanding in Talking Part 3
• Men and Women Understanding in Talking Part 4
• Men and Women Understanding in Talking Part 1
• How to Change People Without Offending Them
• 50+10 Things She Wishes You Knew
• 6 Ways to Make your Guy Love you Forever

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