Self Improvement
Men and Women Understanding in Talking Part 6
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Ruhani Rabin
April 11, 2007
Ruhani RabinIn trying to prevent fights, some women refuse to oppose the will of others openly. But sometimes it’s far more effective for a woman to assert herself, even at the risk of conflict.
How to Change People Without Offending Them
Posted by Ruhani Rabin
April 10, 2007
Ruhani RabinA leader’s job often includes changing your people’s attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
Men and Women Understanding in Talking Part 5
Posted by Ruhani Rabin
April 10, 2007
Ruhani RabinDiana often begins statements with “Let’s.” She might say “Let’s park over there” or “Let’s clean up now, before lunch.”
This makes Nathan angry. He has deciphered Diana’s “Let’s” as a command. Like most men, he resists being told what to do. But to Diana, she is making suggestions, not demands. Like most women, she formulates her requests as proposals rather than orders. Her style of talking is a way of getting others to do what she wants - but by winning agreement first.
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